Updated to add- Yes, I am still nursing Hailey. She does nurse on and off all night. Most nights I couldn't even tell you how often it happens. She starts poking me and doing the sign for "milk" and since I want sleep- I nurse her.
To cry or not to cry... THAT is the question!
Okay, I need your help and advice. Hailey is still not sleeping all night. When she was first born I kept telling myself, "You just have to make it through these first 6 months. Then she'll start sleeping all night. That is what everyone says."
At 6 months I started telling myself, "Surely by the time she turns one she'll be sleeping better. Just hang on for 6 more months."
Well, now it's officially been a year since I have slept more than a couple of hours in a row. And, really it's been much longer than that because I didn't sleep well during my pregnancy either.
When I bring this topic up with other moms, they look at me with pity filled eyes and say, "Oh, wow. My baby has been sleeping all night for a while now."
To which I say, "LIAR." But of course, I say that inside my head, not right out loud because I do not like confrontation. But really, if they are telling me the truth then why oh why are there so many books on the subject of helping your child sleep all night.
Now the reason I am needing your help is that Hailey's sleep actually seems to be getting worse. Around 4-5 months Hailey was sleeping from about 11pm-5am- for 6 straight hours. (Of course, I wasn't sleeping because I had to keep checking on her.) But, around 5 months she started waking up once or twice during the night. Since I was desperate for sleep I would nurse her back to sleep.
Doing this a couple of times each night was really wearing me out. At 6 months we tried the Ferber method of letting Hailey cry it out. For one day. I could not do it and neither could Rich.
One night around 7 months I let Hailey fall asleep in bed with us while nursing her. Then again the next night and the night after. Finally I was getting some sleep because I didn't have to get out of bed to get her and both of us went back to sleep so much faster.
I really don't mind having Hailey sleep with us. The problem is that she goes to bed around 8pm in her own bed. She used to sleep until about 2am before joining us in bed. Soon the time had moved back to midnight, then 11pm. Lately she's been getting up about an hour and a half after she goes to bed, meaning that if she goes to bed at 8pm, she is up at 9:30pm. She will not go back to sleep until I bring her into my bed. I am not ready to go to bed at 9:30pm.
I can rock her until she is sound asleep, but as soon as I lay her in her bed her eyes pop right open. If I bring her into my bed, she stays asleep. If I wait until she is sound asleep and try to move her back to her bed- she wakes up.
So, have any of you ever had this kind of problem? Does anyone have any suggestions or advice? What did you do to get your kids to sleep all night? Did you let them cry it out? Any help would be much appreciated!